grab that rebound!

Today, I was discussing with my roommate why it is that we worry about "rebounding". We also wondered why guys tend to avoid dating girls who have just broken up with someone. We even realized that we've told a friend or two "you should probably give her some space and let her get over him first." We've decided it's time for a change; We're officially pro-rebound.

Why not, right? I know that the last time I broke up with someone, I complained that it was difficult to move on because there weren't any guys asking me on a date. Plus, as a wise institute teacher pointed out to me once, when you're "heartbroken" over a recent break up, you want the affection and attention back that you had in your relationship, right? So, your heart is already open. Once you "get over" someone, or especially when you spend some time being anti-dating, you harden your heart and put up a wall that someone trying to date you has to break down. If you're "rebounding", the wall is already down and you can start to build a relationship that much faster.

The moral of the story? Rebound away.

Differences between Men and Women

Yesterday in my institute class we talked about how the differences between men and women are God given and are actually blessings. We watched this video. It was a pretty humorous way of explaining the differences, but really accurate (as a generalization) at the same time.

Now, why would these differences be such a good thing? Think about it. Women having all those crazy wires going all the time, would essentially be able to focus on all her children at once. It's a nurturing thing. And men being able to have boxes and have such a direct focus? Balances the woman out and he's more able to problem solve because he has such good focus. And the nothing box? Men are the bread winners, so how great is it that they can do a repetitive task (i.e. work) every day and still be content. Yep. That's why we love the nothing box.

That's what we talked about in institute, it was great. I adore the "Preparing for an Eternal Marriage" manual and would absolutely recommend it to anyone. My teacher is pretty fantastic too. I'm loving this class.

So, here's today's tip:
Ladies, men like to solve problems. It's a gift they've been given. So, when you're talking to them, if you just want to whine and you just need sympathy, tell them. On the other hand, if you do want advice/problem-solving say so.
Men, girls have a lot on their minds. And they're so difficult to figure out because often even they don't know what they want. Simplest way to find out? Ask them.

Happy Dating. :)